matchmaking

So I've been trying my hand at matchmaking so in the last month, I've "introduced" 4 different men to 4 different women. In the past, I tried having people meet each other just in group sessions (without telling either of the two that the other was single and looking). But I started to realize that it makes a whole lot of difference when you meet someone via a setup vs just in a group. For example, I loosely setup one of my single guy friends with another female friend but it wasn't obvious since it was a group dinner of 5 and she didn't think of him as being a possibility for herself. But when I mentioned it to her a month or two later that he was single and looking and also older than she thought he looked, she was definitely interested in being setup. Of course now I couldn't set them up since they had already met! urgh.

I guess knowing someone is single and looking makes you interact with them differently because you may spend more time paying attention to them to see what they are like or if you have similar hobbies. It would be annoying to spend all that time getting to know someone just to find out they were taken in the end.

Anyhow, with my matchmaking, so far one pair has met, maybe one more pair met this weekend, and another pair are meeting next weekend. I have this feeling none of the 3 couples will actually hit it off but I will declare it a success if any of the pairing make it to a 3rd date. Also the other thing I've discovered when setting up men who are in their early 40's is that they all seem to only want to date women in their 30's. So annoying.