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So my parents were visiting 2 weekends ago and I only have now recovered. Just kidding. What was more stressful to me was that my in-laws called me up on the Thursday after my parent's visit to say they wanted to come stay with us on Sat night. Fortunately the house was somewhat clean but I do remember a moment of panic when after C's mom arrived that she asked what the plan was for dinner and said she could help me prepare. I wasn't ready to make dinner at all (We had just thrown a bbq for my coworkers so I had no intention of cooking any more). Plus I am petrified of cooking for in laws - I haven't even cooked for my own parents who are really picky.

Anyhow, I digress. So back to my own parental visit. I picked up my parents from the airport and within the first 10 minutes, my mom started talking about babies. Namely how because we hadn't produced one yet, that there clearly must be something wrong with us and I should go see a doctor. This was so not a conversation I wanted to be having since I wasn't sure how to say "um, we just got married. Maybe we didn't want to rush into it." At some point, I did have to hint at that though since her comments just went on and on and then of course the question became "How can you possibly be waiting?! At your age". True. But not her business. She then started saying how all her friends kept asking if she would be a grandmother yet and she had no answers for them. Sounded like she felt stressed by that since she said it kept her up at night. But my response to her was "Your friends stressing you out by asking all the time, that's your problem. Not mine. Keep your stress to yourself. Especially if you want any grandchildren ever."

So that was the end of that for the rest of the weekend which wasn't bad. Until we got to a dinner with a lot of family friends Sunday night. My dad's friend's wife (who I didn't really know at all) just blurted in the middle of dinner: "So when are you going to have a baby?". I don't get how I'm supposed to answer that though I guess it's a typical asian question to ask. Just the day before, my dad had asked my cousin when he was going to get married (since my cousin is dating someone now) and his response was awesome. My cousin replied "tomorrow". Of course my dad fell for it at first but then realized he was joking and that was the end of it. If only I could let it roll off of me like that.

So how did I respond to that question? Well I sort of just mumbled something and said "at some point" and then said nothing more. What was really weird was that she later pulled me aside and grabbed my arm and asked again "so when are you going to have a baby?". By this point, I was thinking she was just weird or had no sense of social boundaries but then it dawned on me, maybe I looked pregnant and fat. See previous posts about how I've gained weight since the wedding. And I was wearing an empire waist dress. gah.